Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Defending the Fatherless

This is my blog homepage and does not change. Please click on the page tabs above for specific information about children legally available for adoption. Please contact the specific adoption agency listed within each child's page for more information. I am an advocate only and have been given special permission to post the information available on these children.



"...all of us make a difference through the life that we live..." ~ Oprah Winfrey

Adoption is a subject very close to my heart. It was nearly 6 years that my husband and I discussed adoption before coming to the realization that the time was finally right. We already had three sons and wanted to open our hearts and home to a daughter through adoption. Our daughter has been a Blessing to us more than we ever imagined. She has taught me things about myself that I never realized I would, mostly because I had the courage to listen. Our adjustment to life as an adoptive family has not always been an easy one, but it has been well worth the peaks and valleys that have come our way.

Our daughter was 18 months old before we found her; she was 2 years old before we were able to bring her home. So many children all over the world never get this chance. It is heart breaking for me to see the number of children who live without parents, without the comforts we often take for granted.

"What made you and your husband consider adopting?", is probably one of the most frequently asked questions I get. This is usually followed by, "Did you always know you wanted to adopt a special needs child?" I LOVE when people ask me these questions. I LOVE when people ask me about our daughter. I choose not to see it as them being nosey; although many people probably would. I choose to see them as engaging me in a subject that maybe they have feared in the past, or maybe one they have longed to have with the right audience. There is, after all, the chance that this one conversation could turn a spark into a flame. We had such a family.

During our adoption process we had a family who opened their home to us to discuss what it's like to adopt a child with a medical handicap. They showed us that a family with special needs children has LOVE, HOPE, FAITH, and GRACE. They were a normal family; celebrating birthdays, completing homework, enjoying a Friday evening at home together. Our kids joined together and didn't miss a beat. No notice of differences. Just kids being kids.

Fortunately, thanks to my own children and the love they give to me, I have been able to open my eyes to a world much greater than the four walls I live in. My children have shown me their best and worst, and I'm certain they have seen both from me. In the end they know that home is love, and where there is love there is acceptance, dignity, and generosity. Even on the bad days when they haven't behaved and they have made me mad, they know that the last experience of their evening will be a kiss on the head and an "I love you" in their ear.

All children should know such love. The harsh reality is, not all do. Children around the world are malnourished, some spend most hours of their day and night bound to a crib, they often do not, even in the worst circumstances have access to much needed medical care...and many will die without having ever felt the warm and loving touch of a mother. WHY? WHY? WHY?

Sadly, it is because of fear  and financial obstacles that many of these children will never know the love that comes from having a family of their own. We need to step out of our comfort zone and take control over the things we fear the most. There is no greater joy than the laughter and love a child brings to a home. We must all put aside our fear to defend the fatherless. I can't imagine what our life would be like if we didn't.

If you are unable to adopt a child there are many ways that you can still work on their behalf. To the right of my blog there is a list of reputable organizations who would gladly accept financial donations.


If you are looking to adopt, or even think you would like to explore adoption as a means of growing your family, please take a look at the tabs at the top of my blog. These tabs feature orphans currently available for adoption. PLEASE, spread the word about these children. THEY NEED OUR HELP!

Blessings & Thanks for following!

Thursday, August 8, 2013

Partners in Orphan Advocacy

When I set out to begin advocating for orphans about a year and a half ago it really happened by chance. It happened because I was seeing the faces of children out there who spoke to me who I knew I couldn't bring home. Maybe they clung to my heart as God's way of saying "THEY NEED YOUR HELP!" Since that time I have become associated with some of the most devoted and selfless people I've ever met. People who work tirelessly for the welfare of those still left behind. And the amazing thing is WE'RE MAKING PROGRESS! Every time any of us is able to announce that an orphan has been "MATCHED" makes the late nights, aching hearts, and frustration SO worth while! 

But even given the progress we're making there are still far too many children left out there without a family, and it's too much work for just a small band of advocates. So I've decided to spread the word about the work of other advocates, my partners in orphan advocacy, in the hopes that we can spread the word about more children. 

Below is a list of additional advocacy and/or adoption blogs. I encourage you to bookmark these wonderful sites and help spread the word about them on your other social network sites. Thank You!

Wonderful Waiting Kids

Do you have an adoption information or advocacy related blog that you'd like to share? Please just add the link to your blog in the comments section below!

Wednesday, May 29, 2013

Peter needs a Family!!! $4200 GRANT AVAILABLE!!!

Peter is from Asia,  almost 11 and needs a family ASAP. His best friend is being adopted soon and will leave for the Midwest US. We are all concerned about Peters morale when he is left behind without his dear friend, and his current home, the House of Love with An Orphan's Wish, is sadly closing.

Is there anyone that can adopt Peter and help him keep connected to his best friend? Please ask about any possible waivers if you do not fit the requirements to adopt from his Asian country. Married couples and single women may both apply.

Peter is known as a quiet and shy child who, though he has had several spinal surgeries, is still able to get around but he cannot stand unassisted. He does use a wheelchair. He came into care at age 7. His upper limbs are normal and he can write with a pen, draw, dress himself, shower, wash his clothes, eat and go up and down stairs holding the rail. He communicates fluently in his native language and he has many friends.  He is very capable and independent.

He has been receiving individual instruction and is a conscientious student who is smart and motivated to do well. He likes to read and share what he has read with others and he is able to write short articles. He has a good imagination and is talented in drawing a variety of items. His drawings are richly colored and full of content.

Peter also does his chores, makes his own bed and helps with other children and likes to earn special privileges such as extra time on the Wii, which he has recently discovered and loves to play. He also likes to play other electronic games with the boys in the group house.

Peter likes to do puzzles and play chess. In fact, playing chess with other children is one of his greatest joys. He is easygoing and says he wants to be adopted. There is a $4,200 Promise Child grant for eligible families for this adoption. Please contact Elizabeth directly at . There is no fee to view his whole file. 

More information from the group home:

You may also donate to his adoption in two ways. At select waiting child, and select Peter. Or you can donate at www.orphanswish in Peters name.

Monday, April 29, 2013

XIAO - A Child's Plea from FTIA

It's been a long time since I've advocated for any specific orphan but when I saw this sweet little face yesterday I just knew I had to write a blog post about her.
This is Xiao who is currently available for adoption from China. She is designated as Special Focus and is part of FTIA's Jing Yi program.  
All FTIA agency fees will be waived for Xiao’s adoptive family. 
She is a beautiful 7 year old girl with knee valgus and incontinence. She appears to have had some type of spinal surgery prior to coming to the orphanage at 10 months of age. She was also diagnosed with hydrocephaly when first admitted; however doctors believed that there was no need to do surgery because the fluid would resolve over time. Since then her head circumference has been getting smaller and smaller. She had shown delays in language and mental development, but she has been improving every day.
She can take care of herself, crawls and can walk some by leaning on the railing. She is described as lively and cheerful and likes to sing while her best friend dances. Her caretakers say she is smart, polite and likes to give them a warm hug when they come to work.
Recent videos of Xiao can be found by clicking the links below:
If you have interest in learning more about this child please contact FTIA's China Coordinator Betty Betz at 1-888-797-9900.

Wednesday, January 30, 2013



Thursday, January 24, 2013

"We get by with a little help from our friends..."

I think we would all be a little remiss to believe that we can handle everything in life on our own. Sure, we want to believe that we have life completely in control all by ourselves, but the reality is that we were all created for a specific purpose, and those unique attributes are what make our ability to lend a hand so special. Asking for help is one of the greatest challenges we human beings face. So instead of waiting for someone to ask, maybe we would all be better served to live life in daily service to others.

That being said, I am once again spreading the word for a fellow adoptive family who is currently fundraising for their adoption. My friend Stacia and her husband Jeff adopted just after we did. They are already parents to four biological children (although some no longer qualify as "children". In fact, it's because of their adopted son that Stacia and I even know each other. You see, both of our adopted children have a congenital birth defect known as PFFD, or proximal femoral focal deficiency. Stacia and I met in one of the many online support groups that have been created for families such as ours.

But adopting a child with PFFD and the challenges and medical care that brings didn't stop Stacia and Jeff from reaching out to adopt again. In 2012 Stacia and Jeff once again answered the call to adopt a son, who they have named John. John has a special need known as dwarfism. You can read more about John and the Hemmes Family on their blog at

The most important thing I want to convey to everyone is that adoption is very expensive. Not everyone feels compelled to adopt, so maybe the cost of adoption doesn't hit home to those people. But to a family who wants to give a child a home I can't tell you how much even the smallest donation means. Jeff Hemmes as a United States serviceman. He has devoted his life to protecting the freedoms of Americans. Would a donation to the Hemmes adoption fund be a wonderful way to give thanks to Jeff and his family for his service? I think so!

Reece's Rainbow Adoption Ministry has kindly offered to collect tax deductible donations on behalf of the Hemmes family to go toward John's adoption expenses. Won't you please consider making a donation to this wonderful family? The link to the Reece's Rainbow fundraising page for John is

On a final note, I am offering 100% of my profit on sales through my Blackbox Cosmetics page to John's adoption fundraiser. All sales through Valentine's Day will qualify but orders MUST be made through the following link! I recommend you check out the link for more information on these amazing products and to have your order help bring John home!

As usual, anyone interested in learning more about adoption may contact me via email at I'm happy to answer questions or concerns about adoption in general, and if possible, provide what guidance I can on the children currently available.